Note: All these lessons are for those who are genuinely interested in someone, or will be at some point of time in future;) All the best
1.Never Expose your interest : It is in this one field of love that something acquired without hardwork is scorned upon. The harder you are to be attained by the other person, the higher you put up your price, the harder you play to get, the more will the other person's interest be retained in you. Hence, even if you are dying of wanting to look at the other person when you meet him/her for the first time, dying to talk to them, just let be ( I know it is very hard, but trust me it works). U feel like calling him/her up after you return home, DON'T. Wait till the other person calls you. Do not show too much enthusiasm in the conversation while maintaining a courteous interest ( keep it almost formal). Better to keep alive an element of confusion so that the other person does not assume you are totally disinterested. That confusion can make the other person keep thinking about you more;)
This exhibition of so called lack of interest in the other person may work for you in two ways. One, the person will start thinking about you as to what is it that you found disinteresting in him/her. This could be due to ego or otherwise. Second, it will give more impetus to the other person to make you interested in him/her and like him/her.
So, instead of other person thinking that you were an easy conquest and may be lead to the danger of the person losing interest in you easily or soon enough, put up your price darlings!!!. This is not the age of sincerity, rather it is the age of exhibiting what the other person expects of you. It truly helps in the long run, one to know whether he/she had the patience and true liking for you to take time to woo and impress you, and secondly, that time-gap would help you understand him/her better.
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to be honest, I believe you are very calculative in love or may be you are not in love at all (or have ever been) and are just testing waters ! your article is a shame.
BTW, if both the partners are reading your advice, I am sure they both would end up being 'confused' and the relationship would eventually die it's own death. Love should be honest, sincere and truthful and not a game where you keep testing the other person and end up being a loser.
Love requires great amount of enthusiasm, energy, efforts and sacrifies for each other at all times unless you are really lucky to be God's chosen one who has gotten a perfect match. too much perfection would again spoil the excitement.
who wants an easy life? or if it would be called 'life' at all? Love is about working on your differences than finding perfection in each other.
be honest about your love and express it as soon as you feel it inside. or else, in today's complicated minds, complexes and apprehensions, both you you might end up losing each other before you have even had each other.
Hi Sukhamrit,
I totally agree with your views.I do not believe that I am calculative in love, if I was, I would have behaved exactly the way I had written in my article. I believe in the concept of understanding, sincerity, honesty, mutual respect and sacrifice/compromise both in love as well as life.However, I have seen the way couples behave nowadays professing that they are in love and in fact I keep arguing with them that they are fooling themselves. My article, more than anything, was an attempt to project what I have seen and hence what can work as a lesson to some people who talk about lack of commitments as being a sign of practicality. And these are all from real life experiences of so many people I have come across.
Thanks for the comment. It feels refreshing to get such cooments on true love.
Regards
MAVI
Hi friends,
It was great to receive a lot of comments from you all. There have been many saying that it was humorous and also many saying that this is not the way true love functions. Well, I have seen all this and strictly believe
1)many couples do follow this
2)many are successful over long run with these kind of strategies
3)this is not applicable to those who have malicious intentions in the name of love, but for those who seriosuly want to make a relationship work.
4)there is nothing wrong in trying to hold the interest of a person in the intial days of a relationship, these are only to make it stick , like the initial days of pregnancy,till it becomes strong
Love
MAVI
Hi,
I agree with Sukhamrit Sings opinion, There should be openness in love. In this fast world if u try to hold ur intentions, perhaps u may loose ur love forever, he or she may think that u are actually not in love. Hence pl. express ur love as soon as u r in love.
I think the author has a point.
I have seen too many people(remember college days?) thinking they are in "Love" by the end of the first year.But, by the end of final year or after getting a nice placement, they think the girl is too fussy etc.. Too bad for the girl. It's probably too late to hear this from her so called "Lover/SOB".
I am a guy and I feel quite embarrassing when both of those ex-lovers are you friends.
Well... I agree Sukhamrit and Kumar with your views too, but the question is how many people are able to differentiate between "True Love" and crushes/hormones and uncontrollable urges.
Now... that's just my two cents. No offense to the real lovers out there. Keep Loving :)
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